The Cost of Conforming

A group of apples sitting on top of a pile of ice

In today’s world, lust is glorified, jealousy is cunning, and greed is simply the road to an "important" position. Anxiety and worry have become fashionable, and passion now equates to status. Face cards reign supreme, defining worth by outward appeal. Our bodies are no longer temples—they are assets, commodities to be displayed.

And sincerity? It’s demanded, but often laced with deception, as if emotions always hold the ultimate truth.

Society tells us to chase "authenticity" by broadcasting our lives—twerking for attention, thirst-trapping for validation, morphing into different versions of ourselves because “that’s how we feel.” "You won’t be as young tomorrow," they say. Follow the influencers, the vloggers, the celebrities—there's more to learn from them than from an old, dusty book like the Bible, right?

We fight for our rights, demand to be treated well, and cling to the belief that we are better than others.
The world urges us to prove ourselves—or entertain ourselves—until right and wrong are blurred beyond recognition.

We hear of God’s love, His mercy, His forgiveness—yet we conveniently forget His wrath.
We claim to follow His commandments, but only at the surface.
We praise Him with our lips while hiding idols in our hearts—career, money, fame, personal dreams shaped by worldly desires.
We attend Sunday service, yet treat it as a ritual, a photo-op, something to post about rather than live by.
We assure ourselves we are righteous because we do not murder—yet we cannot silence the gossip and slander spilling from our tongues.

And so, little by little, without even noticing... we have been compromising.
Sin looks normal.
It sounds normal.
It feels normal.
We are no longer witnesses.
We have become ashamed bearers of the gospel.

Take a glimpse inside today’s church.
Does it resemble the believers in the book of Acts—those who met daily, broke bread in their homes, praised God with sincere hearts, and whom the Lord added to daily? Or does it look different now—whispered complaints instead of prayers, wounds inflicted by gossip and division? Have we traded the urgency of the gospel for petty rivalries over seats, recognition, and fault-finding? Do we speak more about the money we bring in than the souls being saved? Have we forgotten the joy of simply sharing a meal because we no longer want to sit beside one another?

Perhaps we’ve convinced ourselves that our careers, plans, and personal goals are acts of worship—so much so that we've justified stepping away from the body of Christ altogether.

And now, we find ourselves in chaos. Because love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—these are not human attainments. They are the fruit of the Spirit.

We can cry aloud on our knees.
We can work in every ministry.
We can be seen as faithful, devoted, even admired by crowds.
But if the Spirit is not within us—there is no life in it.
We have already conformed to the pattern of this world.

"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing, and perfect will." (Romans 12:2)

Romans 8:6 also states, "For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace." 

We are no longer chasing His will—His good, pleasing, and perfect will.
We are bombarded by the noise of the world, and we hardly fight against it anymore.
The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life have consumed us.

"For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness." (Romans 1:18)

It is easy to conform.
It is easy to bend faith into convenience.
But in the end, we are called not merely to believe—but to live the truth.

And if you ever feel overwhelmed, take heart.
"Behold, the kingdom of God is within you." (Luke 17:21)


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A lady who has been pondering her hope into Christ, inhaling His grace, and enjoying the beauty of life. Writing about life, asking God about "kuliglig sa kanyang dibdib."