I know that sometimes, life can feel heavy, especially when it comes to relationships. As young women, we often carry unspoken expectations—particularly toward the men in our lives, starting with our fathers. We long for someone who will love us gently and protect our hearts fiercely. Maybe that's why we sometimes find ourselves drawn to the leading men in K-dramas—the ones who cherish their wives, protect their children, and stay devoted to their families. They embody the love we hope for.
But the reality of life can often be a far cry from these dreams. Many of us grow up in broken homes. Some of us never meet our fathers, while others live with them but still feel an emotional void. Over time, this shapes our expectations, and our walls grow taller. We learn to stand on our own, to be the “independent woman” who doesn’t need anyone else. We convince ourselves, "I’ll be okay. I’ve got this."
Yet, somewhere deep within, there’s a longing to be pursued. To be loved with courage. To be protected—gently. We long for a love that stays. But when someone comes into our lives, gives us attention, and then suddenly leaves—pursuing someone else—we wonder, “Am I not enough?” When relationships fail, we often point the finger at the man, feeling he wasn’t willing to stay and fight for love, for commitment. We begin to fear marriage and become afraid when real love seems too good to be true.
Movies often portray the man as the hero—the knight in shining armor. But the world has changed. We, as women, now stand stronger. We’ve learned to fight our battles on our own. Whether or not someone walks beside us, we carry on. And though we still hope for a love that’s steady and true, we sometimes find ourselves disheartened when we see men give up on their families, or when we celebrate men for not cheating, as if that’s extraordinary—when it should simply be the standard.
If your heart has ever grown bitter toward men—perhaps due to past wounds, broken trust, or the feeling of being overlooked and unheard as a little girl—I want to gently remind you to take heart!
Because there is One Man who is man enough.
He is man enough to love with a courage that moves mountains, to protect your heart with a devotion that never falters. He is your forever Father, your truest Friend, and the Lover of your soul. He endured the greatest sacrifice so that you could have life. Before you even knew Him, He chose you. When you feel unworthy, He pursues you relentlessly. In your darkest moments, He speaks life into your soul with a love that conquers all fear.
This Man—Jesus—carried every burden you silently carry, and He offers freedom the moment you surrender and say, “I need You.” He is not just a man. He is the Chosen One, the Savior, the Light of the World. And He sees you—completely. He knows that beneath your strength, there is a fragile heart that still longs to be held.
Let Jesus hold your heart and protect it. Let Him lead you on the narrow path—even when it’s hard. Rest assured, He is with you. He has always been, and He always will be. And when we learn to put down our expectations of the men in our lives, we can see them as people just like us—people who, too, need a Savior.
So, let Him hold you.
